Children need more than praise
Scary jealousy is not only for adults, but people are born with terrible jealousy, and children are certainly the same.
Babies have been jealous since 16-18 months. The jealousy of two or three-year-old babies has become very obvious and complicated.
Every adult has an experience that makes him feel uneasy because of fear of being jealous of others. Baby will also be jealous of this “thorn” and “toss” unhappy, unhappy, and even worried or afraid . Worry about toys.
“I have several beautiful cars, but that day I found that the car is bigger than mine, more than mine, and runs faster than mine. No, I can’t stand it, why can’t I own it?
“Fear of losing love.
“Why did my mother hold other babies and kiss him, didn’t you want me?
Mom, mom, let go and hug me!
Why didn’t you come?
“I was ignored and ignored.
“The teacher said that Lulu’s paintings are good-looking. Am I not good-looking?
Now I use a black pen to randomly paint a few strokes on his painting. Is it okay?
Teacher, you have to praise my painting now!
The above are some snippets from your baby’s life. Since babies love to be “jealous,” parents must pay attention not to provoke the baby, and don’t inadvertently pull out seedlings to promote the baby’s jealousy.
It is impossible for the baby’s moral psychology to completely disappear, but with the guidance of the parents, the harm of taunting the “thorn” to the baby and other people can be minimized, and this negative psychology can be transformed into other positive aspects.
Encouraging education is not just to praise infants and young children who especially need the praise and encouragement of parents to build confidence. Therefore, some parents praise the baby singly and exaggeratedly. What the child has done wrong, but also push the responsibility to others.With such coaxing, over time, you are unwilling to learn and acknowledge the advantages of others, and things that do not accept and envy others can happen at any time.
For example, in a small game or game, the child is more sad after losing, and some parents say, “What’s so great about him?
We can do it too!
“This may comfort the baby, but it is jealous words that escape reality.
Parents can positively encourage their children: “If the baby learns, we will certainly be able to do it after learning!
Shall we go home and try?
“Praising others is not destroying their own prestige, or acknowledging others, accepting others'” emotional intelligence “training, and guiding the baby out of the narrow world that may be jealous.
Parents can often talk to their children: “What are the advantages of a certain kid?”
“What advantages can you learn from a certain child?”
“Into motivation to acquire relevant knowledge and skills.
Participate as seriously as a child in his games. Some babies will jealous of the children next to them because they can’t fold a piece of paper. The dullness in knowledge and skills is often the direct factor of children’s frustration, and there is also a potential worry about jealousy.
At this time, you can teach him skills, let him have a sense of accomplishment, accumulate potential and advantages, and build self-confidence.
Do n’t always let the child play, let the baby lose, do n’t always create the illusion of victory for the child, because young children and adults think differently. Adults think that let them just play, but children treat the game asTreat like “work”.
Letting the child know whether to win or lose in the game can train him to withstand the psychological pressure of losing.
Such psychological perception will gradually migrate to other situations, making the baby dare to admit that others are better than themselves, reducing the generation of suspicion and jealousy.